How am I doing?
Am I acting like my ideal self?
What can I do to be more in alignment with my vision/purpose?
It’s easy for life to get in the way. If you’re not careful, you can get pulled in every direction besides the one you want to go in.
Did you see what [insert name unpopular here] said/did?
Other people’s priorities.
Before you know it, you can look up and find yourself off course.
If you find yourself in this situation, you need a way to stay on course.
Setting better boundaries helps. I recommend checking out Essentialism by Greg McKeown for tips on how to say no to others and yes to yourself.
Then there’s regular check ins with an accountability partner. I won’t be wrong in saying a coach would help tremendously in this area; not only would they hold you accountable, they would help push your farther than you may go on your own.
But, let’s say you can’t afford a coach or you’re not interested in one right now.
You’re going to need to find a buddy, or be your own coach.
For this, I recommend setting aside regular time to check in with yourself. Twice per week at minimum.
Revisit your goals, and ask yourself how you’re doing. Then pay attention to the answer.
Good question-posing skills come in handy here, but you simply need to be honest with yourself and find ways solve any problems that may come up.
If you can find time to check in with yourself and really pay attention to your direction, you can stay
focused for longer. Where your focus goes, your energy flows.
Where your energy flows, you’re likely to create all the beauty and splendor you can.
So, give it a shot. What have you got to lose by carving out, say, one hour per week to see how things are going on your pursuit to your dreams?
What have you got to gain?
Even if you do have a coach to help you reach your goals, you are still responsible for the results you get. It’s worth learning how to talk to yourself and how to listen. Reflection is a powerful tool for anyone, no matter what you want in life.
What a gift it is to be able to clear aside time, minimize distractions, and just be present with yourself.
Being able to stop and ask yourself questions is like meditation: it’s a way to step outside of yourself and gain perspective. You can learn that you aren’t at the mercy of the world or your thoughts, that you have choice and power. From that perspective – from that altitude – you can accomplish anything you want.